Monday, 9 December 2013

You are not your mind: A key to Happy Life all the time


This article is carring six keys to happy life. Key #1 (You are not your mind) is the foundation of this article. Key #2 to #6 are the foundation for key #1.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
Any accomplishment requires the effort of many people and this article is not different.
Many contents are the result of a collection from various web articles over the last
5 years. Unfortunately, sources were not always noted or available; hence, it became
impractical to provide an accurate acknowledgement. Regardless of the source, I wish to express my gratitude to those who may have contributed to this work, even though
anonymously.
Every effort has been made to give credit where it is due for the material contained
herein. If inadvertently we have omitted giving credit, future publications will give due
credit to those that are brought to my attention.


1.     You are not your mind (You are a living being)
Mind: Is the data bank(memories) for generating thoughts. Before you born you were not having negative thoughts. After you born the nature started feeding your mind with negative thoughts such as selfish, fear, doubt, hate, anxiety, stress, etc. [For religious people the nature that feeding negative thoughts is 'devil']

Thoughts: Are past events get stored as memories for future projections and interpretations on the present life situation.

Why mind generate thoughts? : Have you ever ask why heart beating?. Mind made to generate thoughts, that is all I can say.

Parts of mind

Conscious mind  has the ability to think (for logic and reasoning). If I asked you about the sum of one plus one it's your conscious mind that is going to be used to make that addition. So whenever you are aware of the thing you're doing you can be confident that you are doing it by your conscious mind.

Subconscious mind responsible for all of your involuntary actions. Your breathing rate and heart beats are controlled by your subconscious mind.

If you started to control your breath on intention then know that your conscious mind took charge while if you were breathing without being conscious of the breathing process then know that your subconscious mind is in charge.

Your emotions are also controlled by your subconscious mind. That's why you sometimes might feel afraid, anxious or down without wanting to experience such a feeling.

Your subconscious mind is also the place where your beliefs and memories are stored. That's why affirmations (refers primarily to the practice of positive thinking and self-empowerment) make no sense and can never improve your beliefs. Affirmations are done on a conscious level and are always filtered by the subconscious mind because they usually don't match your belief system.

Nature and past memories create our mind. Our past some time feed our mind with negative thoughts of fear, doubt, hate, condemning, anxiety, stress, lack, resentment, guilt, etc.

Can you stop negative thoughts? Answer is No because they are stored in subconscious mind.
The secret to stop negative thoughts is to detach from the mind because you are not your mind, you are a living being. Never try to stop mind to generate thoughts whether negative or positive because mind is mind and you is you. Just let mind to generate what it like and for those thoughts which are bad don't involve with them. All thoughts that you don't give them interest they die natural death because they are unusable.

All your attempts at suppressing and stopping thoughts will fail because you will be using the mind to stop the mind. The police man and thief are both the mind, so how can the police man catch the thief?

Trying to stop negative thought more strong they become because you are giving them interest by trying to stop them. You are not you are mind why you are trying to stop mind to do its activities?. May be you want to stop because sometime generating negative thought! But that is none of your bossiness because you have nothing to do with your mind 'YOU IS YOU - MIND IS MIND' only give interest to positive thought and for negative one remain silent and just watch the mind and never try to intervene what mind is doing.
The negative thoughts dies their own death by the poison of disassociation. The mind is like a machine/radio station in your head that generates thoughts based on your attention/interest.

You can never control your mind - but you can deny interest to thoughts generated by mind & stop giving interest to negative thoughts then mind stop itself to generate negative thoughts because you don't use them. Even body take out unusable nutrients without your control.

Note: You have to understand: Any thought generated by mind whether negative or positive is right for mind to do that and don't be bothered with it BUT you just pick positive one. And never think why negative thought generated or feel guilt or feel unhappy because there is no any relation between you and negative though. Mind is free to do its job so you have no reason to judge it or bored by it. How can you be bored by something that is not your part and it can never be your part?

*Why I am unhappy because of negative thought?: Because you think you are your mind leads you to get bored by what mind do.

Fact: Why you are not your mind? If you are your mind , how can you generated negative thoughts of fear, doubt, hate, condemning, anxiety, stress, lack, resentment, guilt, etc. that continuous torture and make your life miserable and unhappy all the time? YOU ARE NOT YOUR MIND. Negative mind started generated since day one you born & remember before you grown up you never think stopping negative thoughts like childish selfish, childish and adolescence negative thought died themselves without your effort or thinking to stop them.  They go way because you changed stage in growth and interest to past stage lost and hence all thought of past died.



2.      Demand your rights in proper channel (wisely)
Never gossip, victimise, talk about others mistakes without proper reason, complaining without finding solution, try to degrade others, convincing to be considered innocent, etc.
If you do that: you are opening the door to negative thoughts.

In case you disappointed by co-worker/family member/your boss/friend, etc. you should wisely decide steps to take and may be either of the following:
·        Forgive and forget or
·        Talk with the person personally and express your feelings or
·        Tell a wise person of your choice to mediate the matter or
·        In case related to office, report to management or
·        In case related to religion, report to leaders or
·        In case related family, report to elders or
·        Take the matter to the court or police  

Note 1: Never hate others for what they do - wrong doing people are slaves of their negative mind.
Note 2: Taking action is very important depending the happened matter - A robber should be arrest and taken to prison to avoid robbing others OR mistreating boss should be reported to management to avoid employees demoralisation that may lead company to loss.
Note 3: Don't count minor issues you should learn to forgive. You also have several weakness and you need forgiveness too.
Note 4: Don't speak weakness of others only for information - that is gossiping. You should speak for aim of looking solution.
Note 5: Taking action should be for solving problem or getting your right - never take action for  paying back.

3.      Lean how to positively disagree - avoid habit of condemning or criticising others
When you disagree with idea or plan, openly express you disagree and with reasons when necessary. If you criticised don't criticise too as a pay back. If you convinced to agree and you understand the matter and see the reason to agree, please agree and accept to acknowledge you were wrong, that is how gentle man should be. You don't see the reason to agree continue to positively disagree to final. Respect the decisions and thoughts of others regardless you disagree. Suppose you were choosing a leader and the person you wanted to be a leader didn't chosen by majority, you must respect the selected one and cooperate with him/her 100% because is the leader and that is democracy.

Condemning and criticising should come at right time to right matters. eg. breaking constitution or human rights. BUT if you don't agree some ideas in management meeting and you start condemning and criticising means you don't know to disagree positively.

Note: You should lean to listen others even if you don't agree with their ideas.

4.      Do everything to fulfil purpose (Not for being appreciated, proud or recognised)
Never do anything for looking appreciation, proud, recognised or profit. By avoiding that  you will fulfil you purpose properly. eg. When you raise a baby you don't think of pay cheque or appreciation, you do because you should serve purpose and most of us we do it in a very high standard. So why in your job and other activities you need to be seen and appreciated or recognised. Remember you come empty handled and you will leave empty handled. The great appreciation to you is being a human being only.

If others supported you to fulfil your purpose you should acknowledge and give their effort credits.

Note 1: Life, happiness, Love and Joy can never be found in anything you have in material form or any status you have, they hide in 'WISDOM'.

Note 2: For fulfilling your purpose you will be appreciated by the power of universal [For religious people power of universe is God]

Note 3: When you do anything never look for approval, nobody can ever approve you, and you shouldn't ever accept to be approved by human being like you. Nobody can be better than you and you are not better than other - all we are human being.

Note 4: Always become a hard worker to develop the world to be a better place to live. See Ants work day and night without thinking paycheque, appreciation or recognition.


5.      Express unconditional love to every body
Lean to love others, encourage them, support them with all your effort and capacity. Express true love to them and will make loving yourself elevated. Hate is negative thought, never ever accept it. You should love those hate you as well.

Remember to feel sorry for those who are suffering from Negative thoughts and never use their condition feel as you are special than them. Do whatever possible to help them get out of Negative thoughts. Love is first medicine to them.

Never count disappointments done by others against you, forgive them and love them always. Even if they hate you - Love them.

Who is a great person?: Is the one who love and serve others.

6.      Don't forget prayers (As you trained in your religion): Honest and truth are best policy.